Life happens. Darkness falls. Your room is abandoned but the house isn't. There are people in other rooms excited, jubilant and flourishing. You, your light is off. Perhaps the electricity in your room doesn't work. Perhaps whomever - or whatever - locked you in that room, cut it off and chose to hold you captive. It's as if the walls are closing in, the blinds...

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"I don't want to go to therapy!" I screamed in an attempt to silence my thoughts. "I don't want to learn my crazy." I hid from it so long I didn't want to open that can. I had repressed memories and blocked experiences so successfully, I forgot they existed. A therapist wouldn't do anything but bring them to light. She'd open the closet...

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DEAR QUEENS, I am writing to remind you of why this day may (or may not) mean so much to you. For we are women and women are one of the more delicate forms of nature. For we know how to make the  cold days feel cozy and how to make the “ugly days” feel flawless again. But something I am  watching my...

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I wish I could marry myself.  No, that's not crazy at all. I love myself deeper than any love I've ever felt; and this love didn't happen overnight. It took a lot of unlovable moments and unloving times. Lots of heartbreak and figuring out how to piece it back together. It took me to be cracked wide open, insides seeping out, to realize...

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In the first 3 days I covered how to love effectively through grace, patience, kindness and other principles mentioned in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. But I'm sure I don't have to tell you how fruitless it all may be when you're loving the wrong person. Many times our hurt - although always a lesson - comes from our full on willingness to love the...

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He got up from the table and walked to the bathroom. She looked around as time passed; no bathroom break should take this long. She wondered if she got up, would the waiter think she was trying to dash. Should she pull out her wallet and pay for the meal? Should she check outside to see if her date left. Seven minutes later...

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"Do something that celebrates you," I was told as I made my morning green tea. I added a little agave nectar, lemon juice and a dash of cinnamon. It became my morning go-to as I weened off of Dunkin Donuts' hot chocolate. Tea along with the morning conversations in the kitchen became my routine.  "Do something that celebrates you." I wrestled with that...

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