Hi again, It's me. I begun this series with a letter to you, and decided to close it the same way. March was indicative of a new beginning in the life of "us". Before then you were a stranger. A being I walked by. A social media friend whose statuses had gone ignored. A leader I watched on Sundays.  Then you spoke. Fireworks...

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Some thresholds were only meant to be stepped across for a healing visit. It was never the plan for our bags to drop to the floor, our clothes to be hung in the dusty closets, our shoes to be shoved beneath the creaking bed. Some houses were never meant for us to enter, let alone make a home out of them. There is...

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“I love you”. It’s a three-letter word that comes with so much meaning. The word love to me embodies selflessness, trust, gentleness, self-control, and honesty. In this day, and age, sometimes we have a tendency of passing those three words around as if love is disposable. I learned that someone can speak so softly those three words, but their actions show none of...

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“How far have you walked for men who’ve never held your feet in their laps? How often have you bartered with bone, only to sell yourself short? Why do you find the unavailable so alluring? Where did it begin? What went wrong? Who made you feel so worthless? If they wanted you, wouldn’t they have chosen you? All this time, you were begging...

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As I look back at all of my previous relationships, I can’t help but notice the poor choices that I have made in men. It had nothing to do with their physical attributes, upbringing or what they did/didn't do in our relationship. The problem has always been that I didn't love myself enough to recognize I deserved better. My last relationship reminded me...

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It’s easy to get caught up in their smile, or their magnetic energy. Sometimes you forget your own light that shines within you. Out of all the lessons in love that I have learned, not putting guys I’m interested in on a pedestal has been the most important. I remember meeting him. He performed in a reading of a play and I had...

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It isn’t often that we learn the things we should before we learn that there’s a lesson to be learned. It is said that we live life forward and understand it backwards. That continuously proves to be true. We weren’t prepared for a lot of the things that we’ve experienced in life, hence the many times we fail before getting it anywhere close...

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"The Lord is near to the heartbroken And He saves those who are crushed in spirit (contrite in heart, truly sorry for their sin)." Psalm 34:18 AMP I  Thank God for continuing to heal the wounds I had buried. May this lyrical recount of my journey bless someone. Vignettes of Four Novembers I flipped some pages back to skim through autumns past— Fall The return...

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I have been there before: in a repetitive cycle of mental, spiritual, and emotional abuse, whether it was relational or familial. Internalizing hurt and pain, and settling for what is because of what I perceived to be potential. However, the latency in potential should never be a substitute for abuse of any kind. Potential should always incite growth, rather than begetting complacency and...

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Breakups suck. Plain and simple. If your breakup was anything like mine, you went through a year long, rollercoaster ride of an ending. February 2016 is when I ushered into this emotional abyss. Little did I know I was always fighting a losing battle but love. Love.... everything I did was because of love for him and never once taking enough time to...

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First things first, I must insist that this is a love story. Misdirected though it may be, love flows freely in this tale. We had all the essential elements. We had attraction, rescue, turmoil, passion. We had chemistry. We were a pair: a boy who loved a girl, and a girl who loved the love she received. Once upon a time he was...

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He was supposed to make me happy. I never said these words out loud because deep down I knew better, but I said them to myself every time a man disappointed me. I didn’t believe I could keep my smile on my own, so I chased happiness, looking for someone to make me feel whole and special and to give me the attention...

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